There's a line in the movie Parenthood where one of the characters says, "You know, you need a license to drive a car...but anyone can become a parent."
Or I like what comedian Martin Mull said: "Anyone with bone marrow intelligence can become a parent."
In our case we were inspected, detected and put on the "Group W" bench (see Arlo Guthrie's Alice's Restaurant). We had home inspections, interviews, and medical tests (If I knew about my tumor then, I might not have been able to adopt). In addition we went to seminars, participated in "mediation", and wrote autobiographies.
It is because of this effort to be a mom, that I take the job especially seriously. His mistakes are my mistakes. Likewise, his triumphs are somehow because I'm the best mom on Earth.
Our son at times has expressed sorrow that he's not like other kids. He doesn't know too many other adopted children. However, he is like other kids in that he didn't get to choose his parents.
I will not to into detail about the adoption process, except to note that we did an open adoption, which means we have contact with our son's birth parents, and he still seems happy to be with us.
I have enjoyed immensely watching him grow.